I'm addicted to twelve-step programs!
April 2, 2012 10:36 PM Subscribe
I can't seem to stick to a goal or self-improvement regime for more than a few days before switching to a newer, shinier, better one. Help.
posted by cortisol to grab bag (10 answers total) 21 users marked this as a favorite
There are a lot of things about myself I want to change. I want to procrastinate less, exercise more, do better work, keep in better touch with people, lose track of fewer things, be happier. But (or perhaps "therefore") my life and house and computer are littered with the sad remains of self-help projects I've tried and lost interest in. Time trackers, organizational systems, books full of useful cognitive-behavioral therapy exercises.
I'll find something new, get excited about it and convinced that This Will Be The One That Finally Fixes All The Problems, use it for a few days or maybe a week or two. Then I'll get discouraged that I'm not seeing faster results and/or become convinced that I'm working on the wrong problem: how could I spend all that time on organizational systems when clearly I should be concentrating on avoiding procrastination? Wait, how can I spend all that time on avoiding procrastination when clearly all my problems are due to an insufficiently nutritional diet? Diet, schmiet--what could be more important than establishing a regular meditation routine? What, meditating? When I could be improving my personal and professional relationships?
And so on.
The net result is that I run through systems faster and faster, and I get very easily discouraged about the possibility of change (after all, these things "never work", even if it's because I never give them a chance to do so.) I know I should probably just pick something and stick to it, but I'm not entirely sure how. Even if I could convince myself that one particular system was worth the effort, I'd still end up worrying that I was focusing on the wrong problem.
How do I get off this treadmill without giving up on making my life a better and happier place for me to inhabit?