Keep my sister's accomplishments from running over mine
April 1, 2012 6:24 PM Subscribe
How do I stop diminishing my (fitness/athletic) accomplishments when hearing about friends' and family's accomplishments?
posted by raccoon409 to Health & Fitness (19 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I started with couch to 5k in October, though later found that I run faster and better with interval training. I still can't run for more than 15 minutes straight. My goal for 2012 has been "12 races in 2012." My 10 year older sister and I are independently training for a half marathon in May and just the other week I did my first 10k (finished in 1:18:45 or a 12:40 pace). Apart from her, I think I would be very proud of this. In fact I was glowing after the race, knowing that I had smashed my goal of finishing in less than 1:30:00. She is very supportive and happy for me, but I can't hold these feelings back.
When I hear how well she's doing and that she runs so much faster than me (10:30 min/mile) I can't help but get jealous and frustrated. Part of this is that I feel she kind of stole my thunder, as I had been planning on the 10k as my big goal and then she invited me to do the half with her. Part is the frustration that she is 11 years older (34), has a 3 year old, does lots of yoga before but not much running and she's still way faster than me.
I would like to just chalk this all up to sibling rivalry, but the same emotions crop up when I realize that my slightly overweight, mostly couch potato boyfriend can also knock out a faster mile than me. Or my friend who is 5 years older and was a heavy smoker smoke my butt on the track.
TL:DR How do I stay focused and happy with my goal of finishing a half marathon in 2h45min when I see people who put "less" effort in than myself do better?