Is he worth dating or do I just keep on stepping?
April 1, 2012 5:06 PM Subscribe
Is this guy yankin' my chain so-to-speak?
posted by Chelsaroo650 to human relations (44 answers total)
So I've been having a string of fun, casual dates and there was one guy I've been talking to for about a month now. I find myself strangely attracted to him? We've only had one date, due to work interfering, there is some distance, etc. He seemed all butterflies and smiles when we first met and during the first two weeks. After our first date he was ready to see me again quickly and wanted me to meet his parents? Apparently he is religious; he is 24 and still a virgin (intends to be until marriage). He goes to church every Sunday. I suppose I'm okay with it. Well, he wanted me to drive to see him which is about an hour's drive. Well I was moody (I have PMDD) and got upset because I was the one who had to drive all the way and I thought maybe it would be awkward to meet all those people so soon. I told him that but maybe not so sweetly, not bitchy, just bold and honest.
So all the sudden, his tone by the end of that week changed. He suddenly wasn't so into talking to me. He also would make plans with me, then go golfing right until the last minute of 5 o'clock and then say I could come over. He is on a dating site. I figured he had met somebody else. I told him I believed so, which he did not like. He said I was acting like a nut. Really, I wasn't; guys date around... duh! He also told me he felt questionably about my "look." I have a Bettie Page-ish dark hair, bangs, red lipstick, pale skin thing going on. Most of the time, I'm told it suits me incredibly well. Although some guys want the tan, blonde type. I took a picture in a dressing room and was actually wearing my colorful work attire, and sent it to him. I am aware I am not the normal girl, but I am still feminine and not THAT crazy with my dress. He told me I looked like Lady Gaga and said "I hope you didn't buy that." I OWNED it. Which, maybe I am too upset about because he's usually polite, he offered to pay for my gas if I drove out there, he said he knew I was a different kind of girl but said he just didn't know what to expect out of me.
So we're in this limbo. He started saying things insinuating he had forgotten how I looked (which I guess is normal when you haven't had a date in three weeks) and went from being sure, to being unsure. Like he said he goes from wanting to be alone to being lonely but is totally open to a relationship or even marriage. Then the next week he's saying come out here (last minute!) or calls me, or sends me "Hey beautiful" and junk. He did make plans with me for this Friday in advance, at my request. Just seems like ever since I laid down the law and whatnot about what I do and do not find acceptable, he's been shocked... but is still coming back for more? It's weird, I'll get testy with him telling him he needs to be more respectful and he won't get mean or anything he just does whatever and he's back for more. It's a strange thing... Is he just a no-go or am I being too harsh which is making him doubt me?