(The song I'm listening to while writing this post: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QrojFR7jM9E&feature=relmfu
This girl and I have went to the same middle school and high school together. During our high school, we went through a highly selective program with less than 50 people in our program, and everyone had the same classes for four years. So we know each other very well. However, we are not close friends. So I should say, we know each other's personality very well.
She's a good girl, never uses profanity, texts with perfect grammar, has a lot of friends but is usually quiet, and has a good temper. She had only one boyfriend before.
She had helped me before when I wasn't doing well with another girl in this high school program (I've never had a girlfriend before). She described me as "You are extremely smart, nice, funny, and talented." We got close in those couple weeks, but then we drifted apart again as we are now in college. I still text her once every one or two months.
The problem is that she has gone to a college four hours away, while I stayed.
My first question is.... is it worth the effort?
I think it's worth it. Since we are old friends, we already have warm feelings toward each other and know each other very well (When she was comforting me after my failure with the other girl, she said "You are an awesome guy and any girl will be lucky to have you in her life.")
On the other hand, since we have already drifted apart some, even if she rejects me, I wouldn't risk losing too much of a friend.
What do you guys think?
I'd like to ask her to a date (and possibly more than one) this summer as she comes back to our hometown. I'm thinking of planning a camping trip reunion for our small high school program. At the end of the program, as she leaves, I would ask her if she wants to go to an ice cream shop with me sometime. I've been arguing with myself how to form the question. Some guides out there say to use the word "date" in the question and make it clear and obvious of my intention so that she wouldn't think it's just hanging out. Some say to make it casual and not use the word so that it wouldn't be too much pressure on the girl.
I'm more leaning towards the second option. However, since we are old friends, such an indirect way of asking her might make it seem like we are just hanging out. Nevertheless, I do think asking her face to face would make it more obvious.
So I guess my second question is how I should word it?
Thanks everyone for your input!