How am I supposed to tell my husband I'm pregnant when we're not ready for a baby?
March 20, 2012 10:32 AM Subscribe
I'm pregnant, at the worst possible time. Help.
posted by anonymous to human relations (51 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I got married a month ago. It was a hurried wedding, because my husband has been unexpectedly deployed. He is now gone, and will be out of the country till November.
And he's not ready for a baby. We had the talk a few months ago, and he wasn't even really ready to have the discussion about when we would have kids. I was on birth control, but I ran out three days before he left and stupidly thought I would be okay.
Well, I missed a period last weekend and I checked today using a drugstore test and it says I'm pregnant. I have no idea how to tell my husband. I know he's going to be very angry, and I don't know how to say I'm sorry. I've screwed up royally, and until I can get up the guts to tell him via phone, I have no one I can talk to about this.
Please give me some advice on how to handle this, if you've ever had to have this discussion, if you've ever dealt with a pregnancy that you were completely unprepared for. I'm in over my head and I need all the help I can get.
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(If you feel the need to berate me about not being smart with birth control, feel free to keep that to yourself, please. No one could be harder on me about that than me right now.)