Long distance relationship or transfer university?
March 13, 2012 2:54 AM Subscribe
I'll be moving to London in October for work, but my partner is enrolled in university here with two years of studies to go for his undergraduate degree. We need to weigh up our options and are looking for advice on transferring schools or the prospect of a long distance relationship.
posted by hannahlambda to Education (9 answers total)
We're living in an EU city where he gets financial assistance for studying, so that he doesn't pay fees and can get by frugally by working over the summer and occasionally at weekends.
We're researching the possibility of him transferring to a university course in London for two years, but the cost of tuition would put him in debt, something he's quite reluctant to do. On the other hand, there are more options for evening degrees and distance learning in London, as well as (I imagine) more opportunities for working and earning, and I would cover most of the rent so the cost of living for him wouldn't be significantly bigger for him there. Also, from London he'd be able to get home to family much easier than from our current city.
Another option is for him to stay enrolled in his current university, but a long distance relationship is really not what we'd like. We've been together very happily for 2 years (living together for 6 months), and while I would travel back often to be with him, he wouldn't have the funds to travel much and wouldn't accept my financial assistance for this.
Has anyone faced a dilemma like this? How did you make a decision? Do you have experience transferring to a UK university mid-degree? Or are there other factors we're not considering? I know that the decision is ultimately his; we're just looking for insights and advice which might inform the decision a bit better.
Possibly relevant information - he's an EU national and a mature student (in his thirties) studying in a humanities field.