Please teach me the etiquette of online dating/meeting people when there are just too many choices.
Inspired by this
metatalk post, I set up an OKCupid account on Sunday night. I just moved to a new city where I don't know a soul, and I figured it would be a good way to meet some new people. I explicitly stated in my profile that I'm fresh out of a divorce and not looking for a serious relationship, but that I'm also not looking for casual hookups (I know looking for friend-types on dating sites is not universally accepted, but that's not my question).
The response has been......overwhelming, to say the least. I don't know what I was expecting, but 50 emails in one night kind of blew my mind, and it's not slowing down. I really, really don't know how to handle all of this. Out of the people who contacted me, I eliminated roughly half off the bat, either because it was clear they were looking for something I wasn't, they didn't seem to have a single thing in common with me, or they were just plain creepy. Now I'm left with a pretty lengthy list of well-thought out messages from guys who seem like interesting people that I would be happy to get to know.
So now what? I've exchanged a number of messages with 2 people, and will probably be meeting them soon, which I am very happy about. I don't know what to do about all the others though. If I tried to respond to everyone (or even just the good ones), I'd be at my computer for the next 3 days. I also think it would be difficult at best to try to get to know more than a few people at one time. BUT, I don't want these guys to think I'm not interested, when the reality is they sent me great opening messages and seem like great guys.
So what's my best course of action here? Do I just hang on to the messages and maybe contact them later? Let them know that they seem great but that my dance card suddenly got more full than I anticipated? For you folks that are experienced in the online dating world, how many people do you typically talk to at once?
I feel like such an ass even asking this question, as it's not exactly the worst problem to have. But I'm really trying to be considerate and not disregard people who actually took the time to read my profile and contacted me with engaging conversation starters.