March 6, 2012 4:55 PM Subscribe
Apartment building recycling bin drama.
posted by annie o to Human Relations (18 answers total)
We are embroiled in some apartment complex recycling bin drama. Here's the setup for this totally ridiculous situation:
My husband and I live in a condo-apartment building with 21 units. Our side has only 6 units, and is totally disconnected from the other part of the building where most of the older owner-residents live. There is a parking area with about 20 spots under the building. We are renters, to the best of my understanding most of the other residents are owners. We have a parking spot that is right at the front of the parking area, and the recycling bins and mailboxes live directly adjacent to our spot.
What's been happening:
It's been a slow build to the latest. Over the 2 1/2 years we've lived here, there have been the odd passive-aggressive note posted over the mailboxes about how it is "everyone's responsibility" to take the recycling bins out. We get it. My husband actually does take them in and out fairly regularly. Sometimes, though, we come out in the morning to find the full bins arranged behind different cars in the lot, clearly "suggesting" these people should take out the bins. Sometimes it's our car, sometimes it's not.
There is no complex wide arrangement about this, no manager or super (since it is technically condos, not apartments). The trash is picked up by the city from our parking lot, so there are never any problems with that. It's just these stupid recycling bins.
This was all fine, whatever, someone's a little bent out of shape about the bins until this week: we are now somehow engaged in a war of passive aggressive notes. I admit now we may have played a role in this. (Actually, definitely did. Oops).
The bins have not been taken out for about two weeks and are overflowing all over our parking space. My husband and I are irritated about this and my husband plans to take out the bins in the morning for pick up day. Come morning, though, the bins have once again been "arranged" in front of various cars in the parking lot (though not ours this time).
Unbeknowst to me my husband takes it upon himself to write a note suggesting that it is actually equidistant to move the recycling bins in front of people's cars vs moving them to the street where they will be picked up. And then he wrote that whoever is doing this should "cut the bullshit and act like a grownup. Either take the bins out to the street or just leave them alone".
When I find out about this note, I have to admit, I think it's kind of great that he called this person on their bullshit. Perhaps not the most mature response, but this arranging the bins in front of cars thing is really obnoxious. Also we have no idea who is doing this, so there's not really a "direct" means of communication.
I come home today to find a note, presumably from whoever is so invested in these bins, addressed to "Dear Children" and then goes on to say that there is no "fairy godmother that takes out the bins".
Yeah, we get it, obviously there is not a fairy godmother. But the fact remains that this passive aggressive BS with the bins in front of people's cars is unnecessary, and seriously, if you're going to the trouble of moving the bins, actually take them out or just leave them alone.
This is all also particularly aggravating because as I mentioned the bins are right next to my car so we end up with a pile of recycling trash in my spot when they are not taken out; furthermore, I sort of suspect that people think WE are responsible for taking them out. Which we are not, we are just as responsible for it as everyone else who uses them. I also get the sense that people in the complex have developed some idea that we are irresponsible students or something, since we are much younger than many of the other owners/residents (by which I mean we are late 20's professionals and they are all late 40's and up). Finally, I don't understand why this person is SO CONCERNED about the bins... their aggression with the rearranging is way out of proportion to the issue of the bins not going out, particularly since the bins do not infringe on their space in any way as they do ours. Really, we should be the ones annoyed about this.
So. This is where we are. I suppose there are two issues:
1 - How to proceed in this passive aggressive note war. This is bad juju, and dude, it's just recycling bins, we can figure this out. Clearly posting more notes is feeding the beast. I suppose this is not really a question, but rather a confirmation of what I already know.
2 - How to get the recycling bins to go out on a weekly basis. There is no super or management, I have no contact with anyone in the building besides my immediate neighbors. I don't really WANT to have any more contact with anyone in the building. But, clearly this is a problem. We can continue ignoring it and taking the bins out on our own schedule, or.... something?
This is really the stupidest problem ever. But it's really getting my hackles up the someone is being so condescending and passive aggressive about something like this.