No, I am quite certain you can do this on your own now.
March 4, 2012 7:20 PM Subscribe
How can you tell if a child really needs help with something, or if they're just seeking attention?
Alright, I'll be the first to say it: kids really baffle me.
I am working as a tutor to a sizable group of 9 and 10 year olds right now and have been for 4 months. Each child is very capable and quite smart in his or her own way, but a few of them have this learned helplessness sort of thing that really drives me nuts. If I've done a mini lesson with them or something, and have released them to do an activity, no matter how explicit my instructions are and how well I've taught the lesson, these children almost immediately come up to me and say, "I don't get it." I end up walking them through whatever it is we're working on and then I don't get to work with any other children. I've tried, "No, you should try it yourself", "Why do you need my help with this when you already showed me you know how to do it?", etc, ad nauseum. The same 5 kids come up every time.
None of them have learning disabilities; they just seem to insist on having their hands held when working on everything from language arts to math to whatever. That being said, they've cried wolf so many times that I don't want to deny them assistance when they really need it, but I can't distinguish the need from the neediness anymore.
How can I help these children be unafraid to try work independently and stay at it before coming to me for help, and how can I tell when they really truly need my help so I don't just brush them off? It's becoming a Thing and it's my fault.