Need opinion/experience from meetup.com or match.com users
February 22, 2012 4:54 PM Subscribe
Just broke up with my BF 2 weeks ago; need advice about how to busy myself and move on and how to meet new people (friends or potential dates). Thinking about meetup.com and match.com, need advice from anyone who has used these sites.
posted by CheeseAndRice to human relations (11 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
So I officially broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago; the relationship was my first and lasted 4 years, the past 1.5 years were on and off again and very turbulent. Reason it ended was b/c ultimately we were not compatible, I didn't feel like he treated me with respect or with high priority. The reason the relationship dragged on for so long was b/c every time i tried to leave him, he would chase after me and I was too weak and in love to resist, also he's my supervisor at work so I see him 5 days/week so that doesn't help matters (we dated before getting a job at our present company)....needless to say I'm emotionally exhausted right now. I'm also feeling very down and lonely.
I need advice on what to do to keep myself busy and move forward. I'm already thinking about taking up art class. Another thing is that even though i have friends and we meet about once a week to hang out I still feel lonely b/c my friends either have a significant other to keep them busy or have other things going on in their lives. I feel like I'm ready to date soon as I never really dated before this last relationship (d/t focusing on school).
I'm thinking of using meetup.com to meet new friends or potential dates and in the future i might use match.com but I've never met people from online before and I am really nervous from a safety prospective (i come from a very sheltered upbringing). When meeting up with a group from meetup.com how do you know who it is that you're meeting with since you don't know what they look like? How do you communicate before the meet up?
Can anyone who has used these sites give me their opinion and advice...I would like to hear other people's experiences, be it good or bad. Thanks!
FYI: I'm female, in my late twenties, living on my own.