Quietest, calmest, most self-sufficient breeds of large dog for a person who doesn't like dogs?
February 10, 2012 10:38 AM Subscribe
I do not want a dog but I'm considering getting one. What kinds would be most quiet, self-sufficient, and non-active?
My husband really, really wants a 'doggy' dog (playful, energetic, greets you by jumping up). I don't want any dog, but I most of all I don't want a doggy dog. (I've been totally upfront that I don't like doggy dogs ever since he first asked me, on our second date.)
It can't be a small dog because that wouldn't feel enough like having a dog to my husband. He's said a Greyhound might be an acceptable compromise. I really (really!) do not want a huge dog, but apparently they're at least very calm and non-barky. No question we'd get an adult, not a puppy.
This is a really hard conflict that we keep talking about. I keep trying to think how it could work. (We have, btw, looked at all possible shelter-volunteer options near us, and none fit his schedule or seem to excite him anyway.) In the broadest sense, I have a loving, supportive husband who's made real compromises for me and I truly want to make him happy. I don't want to see him this sad that he doesn't have a dog like he used to years ago.
My concerns are that we're already really struggling with time and priorities; we have a young toddler; and we both work at home (our child's in daycare several days a week) and I depend on uninterrupted, quiet worktime. And maybe most tellingly, we still have an ongoing, exhausting conflict over the care of the two cats who already lived with him when I moved in (specifically about changing their litter, which gets horrible). My instinct there is that if we can't even provide a clean home for undemanding pets like a pair of cats, a dog would cause conflicts and issues I can't even imagine.
Our toddler seems very good with pets -- gentle with our cats, excited to see dogs on the street.
My big questions are these:
- what kinds of dog would be totally safe for a young child (and cats);
- what kinds of dog would feel least deprived living with me (a person who will never want to play in a doggy way, be jumped on, be slobbered on, etc.), especially if my husband is traveling for work and the dog and I have to be alone together for entire daytimes;
- what kinds of dog would stay quietest and calmest in the house, bark least, and need least frequent attention; and
- whether, as my husband thinks, the dog can just use our backyard as a big doggy litter box. That sounds to me like it has the potential to become nightmarish smell-wise and a source of much greater conflict than cat litter boxes. I'd welcome any reports about how you do that, if you do it.