Help me deal with my past.
February 7, 2012 11:25 AM Subscribe
How do I deal with an out of the blue tweet from my most significant ex (girlfriend/fiancee) without upsetting my wife, her and to some extent me.
posted by anonymous to human relations (60 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
So, further details. I am a entirely happily married man. Many years ago I was completely and totally in love with this girl. I truly envisaged we would be together for ever. Eventually the strain of a long distance relationship broke us up, entirely mutually, but it hurt a lot.
It took me years to stop thinking about her, dreaming about her. We stopped talking, because it was too difficult for us both, too much blame on both sides.
This breakup blew a hole in my entire life.
Eventually... a long time later, I moved on, I got married and I tried to forget her. The occasional relapse and desperate desire to find her was stymied by her ungooglable name.
This morning, out of nowhere, she tweeted at me. Completely innocuous, a breezy "oh I think I saw you on the train" tweet.
I think what I need to do is some how email her, explain that I'm not sure that I can cope with her being in my life even as a friend, but I don't want to hurt her, I don't want to be rude or anything.
Another fairly large part of me REALLY REALLY REALLY wants to see her again.
Here is a crappy throwaway email address in case it is necessary: