Coming-out tips for an older gentleman
January 26, 2012 1:30 PM Subscribe
I have been asked by an older gentleman to help him come out of the closet in San Francisco, and was wondering what resources might be available.
posted by steinsaltz to human relations (11 answers total)
I am straight. My friend is 60 and says he wants to explore coming out of the closet, in a limited sense. He is a little like Rip Van Winkle, living on the edge of the city for years without daring until recently to visit the Castro or to consider that it is 2012 and there might be a lot of nice, non-threatening people he could hit it off with.
A tad conservative and old-fashioned in his ways, he has expressed some concern about finding himself with people who might be too outrageous or not regular-guy-ish enough for his tastes. On the other hand, he is fascinated by the lights of the Castro scene and he has enjoyed peering into the bars and sneaking into The Sound of Music.
I have tried to assure him that there are probably all kinds of regular, mellow gay people in the community and it doesn't have to be like a scene from Cruising. My friend enjoys architecture, fashion, glamour and Italian culture. He just wants to find some people to connect with and feel supported with, and I was wondering if anyone could suggest what groups or activities would be good for him here.
Any help much appreciated.