January 23, 2012 3:26 PM Subscribe
Asking for the wife: she wants to break up with a friend, she is not sure how she should do it.
posted by Marduk to human relations (15 answers total)
My wife has found out that a good but recently acquired friend has been gossiping about her. The gossip (mainly misinterpreted comments or exaggerations of what was said in private conversations, sometimes complete fabrications) has reached our own relatives, and she is seriously hurt about this.
This friend is still unaware of the new development, and is right now still texting and sending emails asking to hang out. The problem is, it's difficult for my wife to say "no" to people, mostly because she doesn't have a lot of friends in our city. At the same time she feels she cannot trust this woman anymore, and the relationship is ruined. In conclusion: She would like to break up, but she is very apprehensive and sad, and doesn't know how to do it.
How should the break up proceed in your opinion, and what tips can you give her so she finds strength to stop the friendship and say no when asked to hang out, etc?
*I think she should not explain why she is breaking up, and should gradually withdraw, since a confrontation would result in more gossip. She seems to agree with this, but says she's not brave enough to simply kill the relationship without an explanation, and would like your opinion.