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January 19, 2012 7:45 PM Subscribe
Relationship advice: Boyfriend will be relocated soon. Should I break it off before I become too attached?
posted by polywomp to human relations (18 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I am confused as to whether or not I am acting in my best interest. I met a guy at a concert in December and we started seeing each other. He lives about 2 hours away, and I have been going to his place on weekends, or he will come to Atlanta (less often). We immediately clicked because we have a lot of the same interests.
I disclosed I was transsexual before we took it anywhere physical, and he initially said it changes things and that he couldn't pursue, but called me the next day after changing his mind. Since then it's been great, except for the distance. However, he is in the military, and is going to be relocated to the middle of the desert some time in early march probably.
I am already severely infatuated, and am worried that if I don't break it off now, I will become even more attached, and thus his departure will have a negative effect on my emotional state. I haven't dated in like, 5 years. Mostly because it's hard to deal with rejection when I disclose that don't have all of the expected parts. So, it's not like I will be jumping right back into the dating scene after this. Also, maybe I am just so taken by this guy because he is accepting of me, and I was attention starved? I don't trust myself to think clearly on these kinds of issues.
Half of me thinks that I should just enjoy it while I can. The other half says I am just setting myself up for heartbreak. Is it worth it to date someone you have no chance of a future with?