How to help/contact a long distance friend with mental illness?
January 17, 2012 7:22 PM Subscribe
I have a dear old friend who lives on the other side of the country. He has a history of moderate paranoia/schizophrenia, and he was incarcerated for about a year as the result of an episode of illness. He's disconnected his phone, and I'm trying to figure out how to get in contact with him.
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We've mainly kept in touch over the phone, but I see him every couple of years. He's very isolated, and I don't know any of his friends (if he still has any) or anyone else who lives near him. He lives in a major metropolitan area, if that helps.
In our last phone call, he was expressing paranoid thoughts again, and I was worried he wasn't taking his meds. A few months later, he left me a voice message basically saying, "I haven't heard from you from awhile, so I'm assuming our relationship is over." When I tried to call him back, he had disconnected his phone (the same number he's had for 40+ years). I tried writing to him, but got no response.
I'm worried that his illness has kicked back in to full effect, and I don't know what to do. I can't really fly across the country right now, but without having a mutual contact in the area, I don't even know how to get to him. I will try writing to him again, but I don't even know if he's reading my letters.
Anyone have any ideas how I can help him, or even contact him?