Religious advice on divorce ... from my employer
January 17, 2012 10:50 AM Subscribe
I went to a counseling session at the employee assistance program at the midwestern U.S. state college that I work at, and the handout that I received is religious. I'm not, and it made me uncomfortable. How do I approach this?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (33 answers total)
I had a counseling session at my state college's employee assistance program to ask about taking sick time or a work adjustment while I'm going through my divorce.
The counselor advised against it, and when I was leaving, gave me a photocopied handout that is an excerpt from the book "How to Survive the Loss of a Love."
In a few short pages it works in a lot of references to God and faith. For instance, part of one of the poems:
I do much.
I do more,
I only transfer
pain to paper
in gigantic Passion Plays
complete with miracles and martyrs
and crucifixions and resurrections.
Come to stay
This series of passion poems
is becoming a heavy cross to bear.
The handout also quotes the Talmud, "The sun will set without thy assistance."
I am not religious, and it made me uncomfortable.
This would be fine to me if I was getting it from a friend, since it would be coming from a person who cared about me. It would be ok to me in a lot of other contexts. But from my state employer?
I'm at a low point in my life and don't know if I'm overreacting. And I don't know how much I have in me to take this very far. I have another session scheduled, so I'm at least planning on talking about the handout.
But what do I say?
I don't think this handout should be used at a diverse state institution, but do I take this anywhere beyond telling the counselor that it specifically made me uncomfortable?