More Maid of Honor woes. How am I going to do this? What are normal expectations for a MoH?
So, I've already posted this
and got some great advice. I'm going to throw my sister a "Naughty or Nice" themed bridal shower. Yes I know traditionally that immediate family is not supposed to throw it, but the other bridesmaids haven't offered nor have my crazy aunts (more on that here
I am actually having fun with it, making cutesy decorations and planing the games. Anyway, my sister gave me the list of people she wants invited to the shower. Its 60. I was expecting 25. No worries, I've contained my shock, made a few adjustments to my original plans, asked for help from the other maids, and I think it'll work out.
Now I'm moving on to bachelorette party plans. My sister wants to do wine tasting followed by a night of dancing and staying at a hotel. This will be a few hours from where we live. I've started researching wine tasting tours, but I'm not a clubbing type so I'm kinda struggling with that plan.
Today I asked my sister for the list of "bachelorettes" to invite. Its 27 ladies long.
I nearly had a panic attack. I don't have any experience with this kinda thing..is this par for the course these days? I thought bachelorette parties were for 5-10 of the brides best friends. Just the correspondence alone is making my head spin, forget about trying to coordinate all those ladies in a 2 hour carpool/wine tasting rooms/dance clubs/hotel rooms.
Anyway, my question is, can I decline my duties here? The shower is already all planned, so can I hand off the bachelorette party to another bridesmaid? The others are younger and more mainstream anyway, and probably better suited for the job. Plus, I'm feeling resentment for my sister building up, and I don't want to get drunk at her wedding and deliver a mean-hearted speech for all the stress she's putting me through!