Please calm my job-related anxieties
January 14, 2012 12:14 PM Subscribe
In a flurry of self-doubt, excitement, apprehension regarding my career, boss. and social life. What should I do?
posted by anonymous to work & money (5 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I just recently took a relocation opportunity and a small part of my office team will be transitioning to a new satellite office. It's a brand new office and our Head Boss promoted a lower-performer manager to take the position in the new office. Very few people took the offer or even considered it due to family and whatnot and the only reason why this New Boss took the position was because he was getting promoted.
He is not respected by my colleagues and I'm afraid of his ability to get stuff done for us. Now, I'm already staffed on a project with him and I'm seeing his incompetencies. He's gregarious. Speaks before thinking (he made this mistake of telling a joke too far early in his career here and this hindered his promotion cycle; he didn't get promoted for a long time and hence the reason why he took this relo opportunity so he could finally be promoted).
This New Boss is very much so an extrovert to the extreme, whereas I'm an introvert. I can already tell we don't really click all that well. He's huge into sports and football whereas I'm not. I dread making small talk with him.
I don't have much respect for him, professionally, and I'm worried about being 'stuck' with him for the near future. I haven't even relocated yet and I'm already thinking about my next career moves. There are several bonus incentives I'm getting for relocating and the stipulation is if you leave the group before a year is up, you have to pay back all the bonuses. I'm already dreading how long this year is going to feel and I'm already thinking about potential exit opportunities.
I'm worried I made a mistake of taking this relo opportunity. Some of the senior people in my office advised me not to take it and at the end of the day, I did take it due to personal reasons as well as professional reasons. Now I'm also worried that these senior people are disappointed that I took this offer. I think they think I only took it for the money. And don't get me wrong, the money was a good incentive, but the potential for a great business school story/essay, faster promotion track, and just adding 'change' to life were huge compelling reasons.
Long story short: I'm moving to a new office and have a new boss whom no one respects and is relatively incompetent. I obviously can't and won't renege on the relo offer as that would destroy my career.
What should I do? Do I just need to suck it up and do this for a year before I leave? Maybe it'll all work out? The job also entails travel every week, Mon-Thurs and while this is great in that I can comp meals and eat well and save money and whatnot, it also kills my social life. I'm also moving away from friends and starting anew in this new city (although, part of the reason why I took the offer was to 'change' up life).
I'm excited about moving but I'm also scared. I'm an entry-level analyst and I know 5 years down the line I'll look at this and laugh at how short of a time period it was, but it's a time period I'll be facing in the next year.
My mind is all over the place, and hence why this post is so disorganized.
I'm scared of moving to a new city. I'm scared of not having my good friends. I'm scared that I'm going to hate this new opportunity. I'm scared that my New Boss' incompetencies will negatively affect my promotion schedule somehow (another big reason why I took the relo opp. was to be considered for promotion sooner). I'm scared I'm going to dread working every day. I'm scared I'm going to burn out from all the constant travel. I'm scared of what's next in life for me. Half a year ago I was in college with buddies living in a bubble of safety and comfort. Now I'm moving to a new city where I don't know anyone.
Have I made a mistake? Has anyone moved across the country to a new city only to think it was the best thing they've ever done?
What should I be thinking right now? What do I need to do? What's next? I'm scared.