My troublemaker aunt is using my name to fill out forms. She has a long history of alcoholism and possibly some mental problems, and I have no way of contacting her other than Facebook (I think). How do I get her to stop? Is this illegal in any way?
I'm in my late 20s and have been living independently from my parents for about 7 years. I live in Philadelphia. Since I moved from my parent's house, they have also moved to a new house where I have never lived, nor have I ever used their new address as my own or
for any forms. I have also changed my last name due to getting married last year.
However, I have been receiving mail at my parent's new house as "Liz Maidenname". Not only would I never use my informal name (always Elizabeth), it's always very spammy mail, like a recent postcard from "Fly A U.S. Airways"
saying that I won an 8-day cruise plus airfare. *eyeroll* I do not get that kind of mail at my current/correct address, so I don't believe it's anything I'm doing AT ALL.
After a while of getting weirdo mail like this (my mom gets it, too), my mom searched Spokeo
for our names, and to our surprise, it appears that both my mom and I live with my aunt. In New Jersey.
So it's become clear that she's using our information for various forms. I don't know why she's doing this, but I really would like her to stop, because I imagine that this behavior will escalate and potentially cause me problems. My aunt is a very troubled person. She is an alcoholic who has had various run-ins with the law and is not at all financially responsible. Her daughter is also a heroin addict who has also had run-ins with the law and has even served time in prison. Long story short, my family has distanced ourselves from her and her immediate family after a long time trying to (unsuccessfully) help her. I'm reeling thinking about worst case scenarios, and I just want to protect myself from her troubles.
What can I do? Is this illegal? I don't know where
she's been using my information, but it's pretty clear that she is. What's the best way to tell a potentially unstable person that they are going way, way over the line? Is a quick Facebook message really appropriate, or should I track down a phone number? I know I should be checking my credit and all that (which I'm doing), but really just want this behavior to stop. Would letting her know that I know she's doing it
make her stop? Help!