How do a Shy Girl and a Shy Guy Get Together?
December 30, 2011 11:35 PM Subscribe
How do I approach a shy guy, or how do shy guys like to be approached?
posted by oceanview to human relations (21 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
I have a mad crush on a guy at work. I haven't had one of these since i-don't-know-when. I've taken to barely looking at him cuz I'm embarassed that he might know that I'm totally crushing on him. Maybe it's one-sided, but I feel an energy when I'm near him.
We work in different departments and are both seasonal staff so potential romance won't necessarily jeopardize our jobs.
The thing is, we're BOTH super-shy types who are bad at small talk. Him a tad more than me. If we walk past each other, half the time he's too shy to look at me and if I say Hi, he often doesn't even make a peep. The other day I was in his department looking for something. I asked him if he knows where I could find it and he kinda froze up. I saw what I was looking for a few seconds later, and said "It's OK, I see it now." Again, not a peep. I'm frankly baffled to meet someone more socially awkward than me.
He is well-liked by people, and I do see him talking with his department mates sometimes, so he's not necessarily unfriendly... though he definitely has a charming awkwardness to him.
Part of me is resigned to nothing happening because I have no clue what to do. If you were me, and you wanted to see if there was a chance with this guy for you, what would you do?
Or, if you are a shy guy, how would you like a woman who's possibly interested in you to interact with you? Would you want her to bluntly ask you out? Try to engage you in conversation for a while first?