How can I get my sex drive back?
December 29, 2011 2:00 PM Subscribe
How can I get my sex drive back? I am a 26 year old male. I don't recall exactly when my problems started, but it's been going on for over a month. I'd like to think that I'm too young still for such a steep drop in libido to be normal. What makes it more worrisome for me is that I have no idea what might be causing it.
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (16 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I know that depression, stress, and certain medications are known for lowering libido, but none of these factors apply to me; I'm generally a pretty content and laidback guy and I haven't been taking any medications at all lately. Exercise has been reported as a way to increase libido, but even though I've been doing a lot more aerobic and strength training exercise over the past few weeks(lots of walking/jogging, push-ups, sit-ups, squats, etc.), I haven't seen any consistent improvement of my sex drive.
There was a time a few years ago when I went through a similar drop in libido, but I ended up finding out that certain food products were responsible for it(mostly soy products), and so once I cut out those foods from my diet the problems disappeared completely. Despite tracking the foods I've been eating and looking for patterns, I've had no such luck this time around in finding a particular food or group of foods responsible for my low libido. I don't know if eating too much fiber is leading to low testosterone for me, but I've always eaten a lot of fiber. I'm not sure if poor sleep or the cold could be causing it, but neither of these factors are totally new for me either. That's just it: there's nothing I can pinpoint about recent times that's significantly different from the way things have been before the libido problems.
Not that my sex drive has gone completely, although the lack of it has been pronounced enough at times that I've almost worried it would go completely. A couple months ago, before the libido troubles started, I could easily get myself in the mood at least every other day, and even every single day with a little extra effort. Now I'm finding myself going 3-4 days in a row at times without feeling a thing down there no matter what I do.
I've occasionally had surges in my sex drive, though. Most notably, in mid-November I experienced an unexpected and unprecedented incredible surge; I was able to jerk off 4 times that day, which is a rare high for me, and I felt like I could've easily gone at it multiple more times if it hadn't been so late and I wasn't so tired. It felt like my crotch was on fire in a good way, and it surprisingly continued into the next day. It was a great feeling, but also pretty exhausting to be so obsessively sex-crazed. The only thing I did which I suspect might have caused the surge is to eat a lot of red meat and fatty foods(said to increase testosterone) the previous day, but I've eaten similar ways since and haven't come close to reproducing the effect. I had also read that zinc can increase libido, and taking zinc supplements seemed to cause short surges the first few times I used them, but had no effect on subsequent tries.
In a way the loss of sex drive has been a good thing for me, as it has given me a lot more free time away from using porn and it has reduced lustful distractions for me. But it still just doesn't seem right as a 26 year old male to be nearly completely unable to jerk off even if I wanted to, after multiple days of not doing so. I can easily get an erection, but I'm just finding the sexual desire to be frustratingly non-existent for me. I don't even necessarily want my libido to be at a high level all the time, but I'd like to find some way to dependably raise it every so often.
Is a low libido known to occur at this age and under similar circumstances to mine? At this point I feel like I have no choice but to see a doctor about this, just to be certain that there are no underlying problems at the root of it. I'd like to change this by lifestyle and diet alone if at all possible, but I suppose the only way I'll be able to find out what has to change is by getting some blood tests done or my hormone levels checked or whatever.
I have no family doctor or medical insurance, so I understand this could cost me, but I don't see what else I can do. Should I seek out a urologist in particular?