Am I making it worse by writing out all the gory details that piss me off?
December 29, 2011 11:28 AM Subscribe
Writing out your anger: does it help or hurt?
posted by thrasher to Human Relations (24 answers total) 17 users marked this as a favorite
I keep a journal, mostly as supplemental memory, as I tend to forget a number of things that I consider important enough to want to remember - writing it all out helps. But I'm concerned that when I write out situations and events with friends and loved ones that make me angry, it's actually perpetuating more anger, making mountains out of molehills, rather than serving to work through it and get past it. Sometimes when in a better frame of mind I read things I wrote in anger and feel guilty, shocked, uncomfortable.
Is forgetting better? Should I just be writing out the good stuff I want to remember and glossing over the shitty stuff? That seems like a bad idea....
I read recently - perhaps even here at MeFi, I can't recall - that a study had shown that if subjects acted out rather than keeping their cool when they got angry, it actually made them more violent. Does anyone know where this or similar studies can be found? Is writing considered "acting out?"
How do you work through your feelings of anger, all the minutiae of detail of the things that happened that made you angry, without letting it get out of control?