Should I tell someone that her new boyfriend is a horrible person?
December 15, 2011 6:18 PM Subscribe
Would it ever be OK to warn someone (whom you don't know) about about her new boyfriend, who is your ex friend with benefits? For reasons of jerk-ery, not safety.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (34 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
My ex FWB was a bad friend and a bad lover - played hot and cold, was often insulting, selfish in bed, and didn't make much of an effort to learn what was going on in my life. I put up with all of this because I found him incredibly intellectually stimulating. I ended contact with him after I became pregnant and he said incredibly hurtful things to me, offered no support, and refused to help me pay for an abortion.
I'm aware that he now has a girlfriend, whom I've never met. I do, though, see her around campus sometimes, and feel an overwhelming urge to warn her about what an ass her new partner is. This urge feels similar to a wish to warn someone who has a flat tire on her car. But - is such a warning ever OK?