I know I need to end it, but I also know I won't
December 8, 2011 9:19 AM Subscribe
Help me end this toxic dating situation. Maybe even share stories about finally realizing you had to cut things off and how you actually went through with it.
posted by patientpatient to human relations (31 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
I met a guy using the Local app on OKC a couple of weeks ago. Things got intense from the get go (i.e. spent six days straight together). He's been warning me all along that he's aloof, busy (read: consumed) with work, a wanderer, might not contact me as often as I'd like, and essentially is doing his own thing right now and I can take him or leave him.
That in it of itself should have been enough to get me to bail instantly, but for various reasons (extreme physical attraction, daddy issues, attachment issues, mild anxiety and depression, previous relationship stuff not completely figured out, etc.) I've stuck it out.
I'm at a complete (mental) breaking point after getting into yet another disagreement about the state of our "relationship". It's crystal clear that I need to run for the hills, but I'd be an absolute liar if I said I'm going to end things.
Please tell me how you were finally able to walk away from something that was obviously wrong, the steps you took, your mental process, anything that might help me convince myself to actually go through with it.
*I don't know if this is helpful, but I'm 32 and he's 36. And yes, I realize that it being less than a month old comes across as ridiculous, but it is what it is.