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December 7, 2011 8:24 PM Subscribe
What do you wish you had known before you separated from your spouse?
posted by postel's law to human relations (20 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
My wife and I are separating after four years of dating and three of marriage. The why isn't terribly important; nobody wronged the other, people just change I guess, and things are mostly amicable. In fact, we still live in the same house (but with our own space) even though we made the decision several months ago. However, I just signed a lease and am moving out within the next week or two. She's moving in with friends at the end of the month. Hence my question.
No kids, no house, few assets. Some serious school debt on her side, about 2/3rds of which she acquired during the marriage. I've briefly talked to a lawyer, and don't believe I'm on the hook for her debt.
We're in Maryland. One consequence of this is that we have to wait a year to file for an uncontested divorce.
So, what should I be thinking about, planning for, as I get ready to move out? For example, are there documents I should make sure I have (or, since I manage all our documents anyway, are there things I should make copies of for my wife)? What should I be thinking about over the next year?