how to self invite without self inviting
December 4, 2011 8:41 PM Subscribe
I'd like to invite myself to see an old friend, without actually inviting myself. how to do it without looking like an inconsiderate boob?
posted by camdan to human relations (9 answers total)
I've recently moved to a different area of the country than where i've spent most of my life, with the purpose of going to grad school. the semester's winding down and i wouldn't mind a break at the end of it. there's a large town about an hour away i wouldn't mind spending the night unwinding after finals are over. via facebook, i know a friend of mine from 5-6 years ago is living there now. we haven't kept in touch, but we were decent friends back when, and i would like to see her. there was no romance or other weird drama between us, nor am i romantically interested now, so that's not a concern.
i've already status updated that in general that i was thinking of going to that town when the semester is over, to which she commented that it's too bad she'll gone over christmas. her comment looks to a bit to me like a non-invite, but it's vague enough that i'm not sure, and the semester's over quite a bit before then (though she'd have no way of knowing). can i probe further without looking rude? i was thinking of setting a date to go down without conferring with her, that way it's non-committal if she can't go out. this really isn't a big issue i know, i'm just not great on social cues (non-inflection on the internet doesn't help), and i'd rather not have it look like i'm trying to force an obligation on someone else.