Hope me Mefites! He's my heroin.
December 4, 2011 3:13 PM Subscribe
How can I break an addiction to a person?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (42 answers total) 26 users marked this as a favorite
I had never heard of the term limerence before, but someone posted about it in an askme and it seems to fit what I am going through and feeling.
Since June I've had what feels like an addiction to a person. He is a distant coworker (we don't work closely together) and the addiction is fueled by the fact that we have hooked up and he flirts with me but it's completely casual on his end. It won't ever be anything but casual on his end and he's made that incredibly clear. But he "likes" me and he likes the hooking up, flirting, not-quite dating.
It eats me up inside and is making me miserable. Each day I say I'm not going to contact him. I am the one that initiates contact 90% of the time. One word from him can make me feel ecstatic, or make me miserable and depressed. I want him to be in love with me and feel as strongly about me as I do him and it's making me absolutely miserable that he doesn't.
What I have tried so far:
I've gotten involved in other activities such as sports and group activities.
I've gone out with friends more.
I've been to my doctor and she's put me on anti-anxiety medicine and an anti-depressant because I am so torn up over this guy.
Counseling. No contact whatsoever is what is recommended but I don't know HOW to do that. I wake up every day with the idea I'm not going to contact him and I do anyways then I feel absolutely awful.
I've journalled about it. That helps a little.
I am having a very difficult time thinking and functioning at this point. I've had healthy relationships before and no one has ever inspired these feelings in me. I feel completely out of control.
What can I try next? I work out like crazy to try and stop thinking about him. I'm in the best shape of my life (seriously, my body looks awesome now). I read and do anything to distract myself, but I still find myself contacting him, waiting on any contact from him. It's really negatively affecting my life and I don't know how to stop.