take this coworker and shove him
December 1, 2011 12:00 PM Subscribe
I'm leaving my job in part because of a toxic coworker. Do I tell my bosses the real reason for my departure, and how?
posted by animalrainbow to Work & Money (28 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
So, I'm starting a new job next week--yay! In leaving the current one, I've tried to be very diplomatic and leave doors open/bridges unburned when possible. I'm leaving for a bunch of reasons (want to try a different company culture, new position offers opportunities to learn something new, don't feel very invested in what current company produces) but one of the major ones is a toxic coworker.
He values his time above everyone else's, and basically refuses to work on projects with other people on the team. He would do things like refuse to attend (necessary) design meetings or take ownership of certain features/fixes and simply never complete them. On top of this, his actual work (what I've seen of it, since he is apparently allergic to collaboration) is below par and there have been multiple instances of people (including me) having to fix problems created by his work. I was quite happy at my current employer until he joined and had no thoughts of leaving. It wasn't until I hit a series of extremely long working weeks, necessary because we had committed to meeting a certain deadline based on having 3 people working on the project fulltime and were forced to make do with only 2 due to new coworker's refusal to participate, that I started taking recruiters' calls and primping my resume. Since then I've been placed on a different team and no longer have to work with this person on a day-to-day basis, but he sits very close to me and his constant negativity and complaining (nothing is ever his fault or responsibility) still grates on me.
Only for two more days though! So far, in talking to my managers about my decision to leave, I have only mentioned the positive aspects of the new position & my desire to change, in hopes of keeping the transition a positive one. However, I went out to lunch with a coworker who's still on Negative Neil's team and she practically begged me to say something about it to the management team. The more I think about it, the more I would like to, but I have two concerns. One is seeming petty or childish towards the toxic coworker (my manager is aware of my difficulties with him, which is the unspoken reason I was moved to another team.) Another is that, frankly, my complaints are as much with management as with him directly--in my opinion, it is their role to prevent these kind of situations from happening, and I don't know how to talk about it without at least some kind of implied criticism. I feel for the people who still have to work with this guy, but I'm primarily concerned with my own reputation and future prospects.
Do you think I should bring it up at all, and if so how? I have an exit interview scheduled, but it is with HR, not my manager.