November 26, 2011 10:21 AM Subscribe
The once love of my life contacted me today to say her feelings haven't changed in the eight years we've been apart. Neither have mine. What now?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (68 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
Classic story, boy meets girl, they fall head over heels for two years then life throws a nasty curveball and it all ends in tears. She moves to another city, then another country. I retreat to a small town and drown myself in drink for the next few years. There have been many relationships since, some very short others longer but the feelings I had for her never went away despite my best efforts to surpress them. I'm currently in a happy, successful, positive long term relationship with a funny, talented, beautiful woman. She is apparently in the same with a man. We reconnected earlier this year through mutual friends on Facebook and exchanged polite and friendly messages on birthdays and have enjoyed discovering where our lives are now at through that most ignominious online way of doing so. Today I got a message from her saying that she'd never truly moved on and was still in love with me. I have always felt this way too. She wants to meet.
Emotionally, I've already betrayed my partner, I won't do so physically which would doubtless be the result if we were to meet.
Do I "shut this down" and deny this bond I have with another woman for the sake of my own and others happiness. Or pursue and risk everything for the possibility that she is the person I truly love.
Other info: both late 30's, unmarried, no children