Will childbirth be easier the second time around?
November 24, 2011 5:07 PM Subscribe
How can I support a friend who had a horrific first childbirth experience, and is now facing her second?
posted by finding.perdita to health & fitness (14 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
My friend is 8 months pregnant with her second child. Her first childbirth experience 3 years ago was horrific. Their birth plan, and the contingencies, went out the window early on. I won't go into the details but it left her physically and emotionally scarred (not a caesarian). I'm the only person she's gone into detail with - I think that's because I don't want kids anyway - if I did, it would have put me off completely!
The second child is wanted. She's seemed okay about the whole thing up until tonight - not exactly looking forward to it, but resigned and pragmatic about it. Tonight she admitted to me that actually she's incredibly scared and stressed about the birth, and the closer it gets, the more fear she feels.
Her husband knows this and is doing what he can to support her. Her doctor/midwife knows this as well but I get the impression they're not being particularly supportive. She's moved since her first child so while the NHS team she's working with now know about her previous experience, they weren't involved at the time. The birth will be in an NHS hospital. They don't have the money to go private.
I'm really worried about her - and I'm guessing that going into labour being stressed and scared isn't a great start, either for her or the baby...
I'm looking for anything that might alleviate her stress and fear. Websites / forums / evidence / anecdata?
Also, what else can I do to support her?