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November 20, 2011 10:13 PM Subscribe
Reconciliation after a break-up: dealing with fallout from friends.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (17 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My ex and I have had a hard year together, one that was mostly good, but pretty lousy these past few months, and we broke up because of it. We told our friends, we told our family, and we started to disengage. Today we had a really good conversation that left us both optimistic about possibly getting back together in the future (6 months to a year) after we've done some work to improve different parts of our lives through therapy and hard work. We're both being pragmatic; it could happen, it might not, we may meet new people, we may move on, etc and we're ready to deal with whichever result comes up. I am hopeful, and after the conversation happened, it felt right.
For those of you who've successfully reconciled with a partner after 6 months to a year of being apart and working to improve yourselves, how did you stay honest with family and friends about the situation? If you felt very strongly that you were doing the right thing, how did you explain that rationale to others? I am accepting full emotional responsibility for anything that happens from here-on-out, but I cannot seem to get my friends to understand that I really just need to give this one more shot. The only answer I've got is, "I've got to go with my gut on this one, I'm sorry."