Should boyfriend do sexual arousal study without talking to girlfriend about it first?
November 18, 2011 2:37 AM Subscribe
Should my boyfriend have done sexual arousal study without consulting me first?
posted by crawmama to human relations (68 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I was waiting for my boyfriend (he was in a lecture from 7:30am-12pm, but it usually only lasts till 10) and he finally came to meet me at 1pm, and eventually during lunch says he actually was done with his lecture at 10a.m., but decided to participate for an hour in a sexual study for 20 dollars where he looks at nude photographs to see if they arouse him or not. This upset me a lot and I walked out of the cafeteria. I eventually talked with him again outside, and I asked him how he could do this, and didn't he know it would hurt me? And he told me that he knew I wouldn't like it, but $20 dollars is a lot to him. (He gets about $1,350 a month from his parents and a stipend. Not to mention he has never worked a paying job for a single day in his life and his parents give him and buy him everything he needs - so he absolutely didn't need the money.) I asked if $20 is worth it to do something that would hurt me so much, and he said yes. I asked him why he couldn't at least call me or write me to see if I was okay with it. He got mad at me for being upset (I was crying), saying he shouldn't have to ask me or tell me anything first, he can just decide for himself what's okay and what's not, and then he said he wants to break up with me because the way we see these things is too different. I am still staying with him until my flight on Monday. What do you all think about this? Was I out of line for getting upset about that? (He is 25 and in medical school, and I am 23, by the way, and staying with him in the foreign country where he lives)