How do I adjust to being by myself?
November 15, 2011 9:37 AM Subscribe
I'm recently divorced, and I'm realizing that I have never lived alone. I've always had roommates, parents, girlfriends or my ex-wife. And, wow, am I having a hard time with living by myself.
posted by bonecrusher to Human Relations (58 answers total) 54 users marked this as a favorite
I'm keeping very busy. I have some sort of activity or gathering planned most nights. But if I get home at 8:30 pm, the hours between then and when I go to sleep are agonizingly lonely. I've always had someone to talk to whenever I wanted, and I can barely stand it. I find myself staring at facebook, compulsively clicking "refresh" for hours. Watching TV or reading just makes me think about how quiet and dark it is. Sunday afternoons are excruciating.
What can I do to get over this? I don't want to get a dog, since that would force me to stay home most evenings and I have to travel occasionally for business. I'm not fond of cats. Getting a roommate seems drastic, and potentially worse than the disease. Besides, I'm 42 and would feel weird renting out my small second bedroom.
Do single people just get used to being by themselves? How do I adjust to this?