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November 14, 2011 7:57 PM Subscribe
My long term (almost 6 years, living together for 3) boyfriend hates hates hates couples therapy. i think it has helped immensely. ugh.
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i wrote a big long thing , but so many snowflakes. throwaway: email@example.com
he hates talking about our personal lives and his personal life to a stranger. however, therapy is the only time we seem to really be able to get any actual emotional communication done where it's not just me crying, but him being led through exploring his feelings.
we had to stop going because he was beginning to resent me and therapy. he said in the session that he felt like he was on trial and he knew he shouldn't feel like that, but he hated the whole process. he wouldn't respond, he just kept sitting there with tight lips and fire eyes.
he did like our therapist and thought she was fine, he just doesnt like therapy. he tried individual a while back and was so withdrawn and distant for like two days....i don't even know.
i've been in individual therapy for about 4 years now and it's really helped.
so what to do? our relationship has had its ups and downs, and i know he loves me, but this emotional distance is just too much. i'm his first long term relationship.i've been in two before, but not this long. i'm 33, he's 38.