I can't really believe I'm asking this, but: what are some things I can do to look "sexier," in a heteronormative-woman kind of way?
I'm pretty happy with my look in general, but sometimes I'd like to make my, uh, intentions a little more obvious.
I'm newly-ish single, and newly-ish in better shape than I've been in years, and want to take advantage of it a little. The difficulties:
I've got short hair. And it is horribly thin and fine, and is at it's healthy best in a short cut, so long hair isn't an option. I've got a great hair stylist, so it's fashionably cut and professionally colored.
I usually wear glasses, but have recently gotten contacts to change things up. I do wear make-up, so I feel like this opens me up to some more dramatic eye make-up options (?).
Also, I'm pretty flat-chested and enjoy it. I'm thrilled to have lost weight and look thin! And I wear cheap, minimal bras, only sometimes! I don't have any bras right now that, uh, accentuate that area. On the plus side, I guess I could also wear something seriously plunging without looking obscene...
I'm generally pretty stylish, though not terribly trendy... as in, I get a lot of compliments from fashion nerds. I don't wear men's clothes, but I trend towards the androgynous and pretty covered up (think Style Odyssey
, in fashion-blogger terms). I would rather buy second-hand designer than new Forever 21.
My usual look is a little... cold? And I realize that can be off-putting, at first. Also, I think I'm ok but I'm not really conventionally attractive, so the quirky thing works for me. I'm really not interested in “competing” or being the “hottest” woman in the room or something, that way lies wrecked self-esteem. But, you know, I have dates, too, occasionally. And would like to get more!
Even my own mother, who rarely wears more make-up than mascara, suggested maybe I should dress sluttier (!).
So give me some ideas: Who are some people I can look to for inspiration? What's a good going-to-a-bar outfit that's not, like, a teeny little dress and super high heels? What are some things that suggest “sexy” without being uncomfortable or cheap? Guys, what are some things that turn your head? Give me beauty tips, pictures/people to look at, links to clothes that might work, whatever. I need to get out of my own particular tastes and expand my look a little bit.
I am totally focused on outside appearance here, not so much on the other important things like confidence and happiness.
Anonymous because I'm a little embarrassed to be asking this.
And if it's really just a push-up bra and a too-short skirt, I guess let me know that, too. Sigh.
Oh, and if it's unclear, I'm a straight, cis-gendered woman. 30-ish.