Strikeout for the awakwrd guy
November 13, 2011 5:55 PM Subscribe
This is a follow up to my previous question
. Made a move on a girl who I thought had some interest in me. I thought wrong, apparently...
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (47 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
I read all the answers from my previous question and did my best to follow some of the better advice. Things were going pretty well until I actually tried for the kiss! Quick recap so everyone can judge the situation:
The girl(we can call her Lilly for the sake of this post) called me up shortly after my original post went live and asked me to join her at an event after work one night in the coming week. I went, we enjoyed ourselves for the short duration of the event and then went home (This wasn't a date type event though, and neither of us saw it as one, just to be clear). The next day Lilly texted me to say she had fun and that we needed to hang out again soon. I suggested we get together Saturday night, she agreed.
Saturday rolls around and I call her to suggest we could get some dinner, then maybe watch a movie or two, unless she had any better ideas. We end up at a restaurant close to her place so we head back there after we eat. Lilly was her normal fun and rather flirty self like she always has been. So far so good. But, things get start to get confusing soon!
We sit down to watch a film and Lilly made sure to turn out all her lamps etc(movie, check. couch, check. darkness, check.). I sat close to her on the couch and she was sort of sitting in a way that almost faced/leaned into me, she was not sitting in a stiff facing front position. Up until this point I had not tried to be overly flirtatious with her or anything but I moved even closer to her so that our legs were touching. She did not move away or even flinch. Maybe 5 minutes after I moved in super close Lilly says she is going to go brush her teeth, smiles, and then gets up. She sits back down and starts to apply some chap stick. I'm sitting there thinking that I have this in the bag! I wait a little for a good break in the movie and then I try to go in for the kiss. Lilly kind of moved her head back and gave me a look that said, 'Oh, what do we have here?'. I then awkwardly said, "Uh... So do you wanna make out?". Needless to say, she did not want to!
Now I feel like an FAA inspector investigating the wreckage of a plane that just fell out of the sky. What did I do wrong and what can I learn from?
Is she just a flirtatious girl who doesn't realize she could be leading guys on? Am I really that bad at reading body language(how can I improve that?)? Do I need to re-evaluate how I send signs that say 'I'm into you!'? Or is there something else?
As I mentioned in my previous post, I fairly recently got out of a serious relationship. I never had much confidence with women before but now I'm feeling even lower.