I became a prokaryote
November 9, 2011 10:34 AM Subscribe
Is it possible to "become" asexual?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (12 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I'm 34 and female. I used to like guys and sex. I dated in my 20s and have had a few long-term relationships- all rather negative experiences. After my last boyfriend and I broke up (two years ago), it felt like I had shut a switch off in my brain.
It's not like my libido has disappeared, I do masturbate.. I just have no desire to have sex or be in a relationship with anyone. Occasionally I tell people that I am just waiting for the right man to come along and that I'm open to possibilities, but deep down I know I'm lying. Luckily I am never approached by men but I know that if I was, I wouldn't pursue anything.
I have struggled with a terrible self-image for a long time and have improved with therapy, exercise, etc. One thing that hasn't changed is my conviction that I am just not "girlfriend material" and that I need to work on just being happy with being single forever.
Looking for advice/feedback. Throwaway email: firstname.lastname@example.org