There's also some self identity issues here...
November 2, 2011 8:51 AM Subscribe
How do I meet 2nd generation Chinese women in the Bay Area? (Not as creepy as it sounds... I hope)
posted by bluelava to Human Relations (31 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I look like I’m Chinese, after all my parents are Chinese. But I really don’t identify: I don’t read/speak any dialect, I barely use chopsticks correctly, don’t like math/martial arts/karaoke (ok those are stereotypes), and I don’t do the familial piety thing. I’m definitively second generation (if you count gen-1 as immigrants). “Banana”, “twinkie” I’ve heard it before. I’ve always wished I could be one of the guys in the Brooks Brothers catalog.
Having reached my advanced age of 34 – I’m ready to find the right woman, settle down, get married, have 2 kids, get a swagger wagon, a white picket fence, and all of that.
The catch: I have “Yellow Fever”. (Let’s put aside the question of whether an Asian can be an Asiaphile.)
So now I’m living in the SF Bay Area, where there’s plenty of Asians (majority in some cities.) But… well… what do I do?
1. The ones I personally know are all married and in their 30’s. I’d like to find someone who is in their late 20’s.
2. Many of the social groups (even meetups) tend to be very … well … “FOB”. I feel like a fish out of water – heck, English is frequently optional which really leaves me feeling left out.
3. Well… there’s also the fact that there doesn’t seem to be a whole lot of single women here (compared to NY).
A blunt, crude way to put this: How do I meet, single, “ABC”/2+ generation Chinese women, who are 25-31 and have similar values to mine?