Rejection is part of being a writer -- but what about the embarrassment?
November 1, 2011 2:23 PM Subscribe
Rejection's part of being a writer. I can deal with rejection. How do I deal with the embarrassment?
posted by anonymous to work & money (17 answers total) 18 users marked this as a favorite
Anonymous because I know some of you are editors and I'm pretty sure I've pitched some of you before....
So I'm starting to freelance more. Almost all of my work until now's been offered to me without my having to pitch. This is an awesome thing and I don't want to come off like I'm humblebragging. But it means I have no idea how to do it myself and I'm fumbling my way through. Google is hilariously useless for this.
My success-to-failure ratio is just OK, which I guess is normal, and I'm confident in my writing ability. The rejection emails/letters are standard boilerplate bullshit - they know what it is, I know what it is, and we're both polite about it. I know better than to pick them apart.
But every time something gets rejected I feel humiliated, like I've permanently burned bridges at the place. It's to the point where I'm scared to contact the same place twice because I'm afraid of how much my old pitch got made fun of after I sent it. And this does happen. I've worked in publishing places and I've definitely seen proposals get mocked, a lot. Like, one place I worked had a special folder just for shitty pitches and applications to be stored and pulled out every so often when the office needed a laugh. They're extreme - one guy sent hardcore erotica, it's that sort of thing - but still.
Problem is, my field is small enough that this is something I need to get over fast. The easy way is just to grow a pair and keep pitching. But I feel like That Guy when I'm doing it, that guy who can't take a hint. Do you have to be explicitly told "feel free to contact us again" to be free to contact them again? Is there a secret code? Do I just suck?
Throwaway email: pitchesaintshit at gmail.