How to stop a relationship going any further?
October 31, 2011 8:40 PM Subscribe
I don't want to date a girl who's really, really
in to me, but I want to hurt her as little as possible. Plus, I'll see her at work!
posted by Silentgoldfish to Human Relations (43 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I got asked out by a girl I sometimes see at work, which was really flattering since it rarely happens to me. After going out for a drink with her I don't want to take things any further.
However, I've had multiple texts a day from her (to the point where I stopped replying) including questions about what kind of relationship we're in (that one was 5 minutes after I'd said goodbye from the date). She's made it pretty clear that she really likes me with an intensity that I'm really not comfortable with, especially as she doesn't really know me yet.
I'm seeing her for dinner tomorrow; she clearly thinks I want to take things to the next level already. What's the best way to break things off without hurting her feelings too much and making things extra awkward when I inevitably see her at work? Friends I've talked to about it just say to ride it out and see what happens but I'm kind of worried that if I don't man up I'll be married before I know it!