How do guys move so fast into a new relationship?
October 31, 2011 7:10 AM Subscribe
Breakup after two years, why does it hurt so much that he started a new relationship when he said that's not what he wanted. Short version of the breakup: I am six years older, my ex is 22. I have known his family for ten years, best friends with his cousin and that's how we connected in the beginning. We had so much in common as far sports, out door activities, school, silly drinking times and mostly the family connection. We did not say we loved each other until six months into the relationship and it grew from there.
posted by Dee123 to Human Relations (19 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I decided to end the relationship about five months ago because he when he switched jobs and worked back with his best friend, he started to hang out and communicate less with me. He told me everyday that he loved me, missed me and didn't like that we didn't see each other but never made any made any real effort to fix it. Of course I told him I still loved him and I wanted to be only with him but I could tell he liked his space. We went down to seeing each other once or twice a week versus every other day. He said he was scared because he felt like we were married and he was afraid he was going to hurt both of us. For the next three months after that I thought everything was getting better, we still talked everyday, sex life was better and things were "fun" again. Then out of the blue I found out he was talking to another girl. He didn't have the courage to tell me outright so I found out through social networks. He lied to me when I asked and said I better not be seeing anyone myself. I run into him all the time because he drives down my street for work (even though he could go another way and my street is the long way to work) plus I am still friends with the family. He has seen me out with a guy and got really jealous and called my phone saying I am messed up for doing that. My question are: 1. How do guys move so fast into a new relationship when they weren't sure if they wanted to give up the current one? 2. How can I jump over this hurdle of thinking his life is great without me? (the new girlfriend is around his age but has two twin girls and partys all the time) No one should ever get to see how an exes develops but thanks to social networks it is hard to not look. Thanks for the input.