Can we ask people to send "expressions of interest" prior to the actual wedding invites?
October 26, 2011 8:45 AM Subscribe
Can we ask people to indicate an "expression of interest" in attending our wedding before we send out of the official invites? More details inside.
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We’re planning a wedding. We have a tentative guest list which has about 70 people on it. We don't actually expect all of these people to attend. We figure that there are about 20 people who probably won't attend (because of travel costs and other reasons). The problem is that booking the venue is going to be tough. We don’t particularly want to book a venue for 70 people if only 50 of them will actually come, but we won’t know who is coming until much closer to the wedding (assuming that everyone actually RSVPs on time).
Can we ask people to send an “expression of interest” when we send out the save-the-date cards? We’re thinking of setting up something on our wedding website that will allow people to submit their expression of interest anonymously. That way, we’ll have an idea of the numbers to expect but there will be no hurt feelings or awkward moments if Uncle Jim sends an expression of interest but then RSVPs “no” when the official invites go out. The understanding would be that the expressions of interest are not official RSVPs, but just a loose idea to help us plan.
Is this something that we can do or would it be too tacky? And, if it is acceptable, what is a nice way of wording the question?
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