Why am I so angry?
October 15, 2011 9:20 AM Subscribe
I'm 10 weeks pregnant and I am so angry! I have less patience, tolerance, and empathy for everyone and everything. How do I calm down and get a grip?
posted by fiasco to Human Relations (29 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I'm unexpectedly 10 weeks pregnant. To clarify, my boyfriend and I are very happy and excited about this pregnancy. Some might even say my boyfriend is even more excited than me. I'm nervous about the baby's health; if I'm doing everything right; if I need to be doing more; if everything is set up for when the baby comes. What if my baby has abnormalities or defects? What if the prenatal vitamins I'm taking aren't the best? I can't stop worrying.
It wasn't planned, as mentioned, but regardless, it is a blessing. Everyone in our lives is very supportive.
I get the hormonal aspect of it but to me, there's no excuse for poor behavior. I haven't gone postal on anyone but I know I have a shorter fuse. I have a lower tolerance for dealing with seemingly inane issues people at my work bring up. I wake up in the morning seeing red. I have a harder time letting stuff go. I let it fester and I get myself worked up in a lather. I'm so worried! We're going to raise and love a baby. We are bringing another human being into this world. I thought my sense of compassion and empathy towards others would widen instead of narrow. I just get so stressed out because I know how wonderful and how difficult this world can be at times. Sometimes I don't feel brave enough to face it. How is this precious unequipped little human going to face the world with compassion and bravery if his or her parents sometimes can't?
My boyfriend and I live together and have for a while. My boyfriend is amazing and very supportive. But another point of stress is that we have discussed marriage for a while now. We both agreed we want to get married. He wants to wait until after the baby arrives. I do not want to wait. He wants to wait so we can get married on our terms and so that the marriage is about our love, not the baby. I want to get married now because I know we love one another and I want a sense of security and tradition before the baby arrives. This is really important to me. I feel like the longer we wait, the more things will come between us and the date (like raising the baby, etc). This makes me really angry, actually. I just want everything to start fitting together now so we're ready for the baby. I feel like this whole issue is turning me into a bully and brat.
I am really trying to get perspective but I can't and I feel guilty about it. I have a really hard time admitting I feel like this except to my mom and my boyfriend. Is this common? How do I deal with this? Everything I've read is about the physical symptoms of pregnancy, but what about the emotional? Have other people turned into pregnant monsters? How did you or your significant other deal with the stress? What is going on?