How can I sleep with my partner without the aching?
October 10, 2011 8:51 AM Subscribe
Why do I experience joint pain and insomnia when I share a bed with my girlfriend and sleep perfectly when I have the bed to myself? How can we sleep peacefully together again?
posted by goalie_dave to health & fitness (12 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
When sleeping in the same bed with my girlfriend, I am often awakened by pain in my toes, ankles, knees and fingers. My initial solution is to stretch out and pop my aching joints, both of which really bug my girlfriend. I've been with her for about 8 months and when we first started sleeping over with each other I did not experience this. However, with my previous long-term relationships I've also experienced waking up with joint pain in the middle of the night when sharing a bed with said partners. As soon as one of us moves to another room to sleep, I almost immediately fall to sleep and am no longer bothered by the previous pain.
My girlfriend and I wish to return to sleeping together peacefully. She tells me it's some psychological or phantom pain and that I just need to ignore it and go back to sleep. The trouble is that I can't ignore it because the pain is so irritating. Stretching and popping my joints only works for a few minutes, then I'm back to tossing & turning or trying to fall asleep in strange positions. I agree that it's probably psychological, since it only happens when I sleep with someone in my bed, but I can't find anything about this, aside from people saying to just sleep in different beds. Any ideas?