October 5, 2011 8:23 AM Subscribe
Why can't I "see" what I really look like?
posted by bearette to Grab Bag (29 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
This is a somewhat shallow question that is kind of vanity-based, but I am still really curious: why can't I really "see" what I like look like?
Recently two people I've met through internet dating told me I look much younger in person than in my photos. I can't see it at all. I've had others look at certain photos of me and be like, "wow, is that you?". Again, I can't tell when I take a photo if it "really" looks like me or not, though I do think I look really different in different photos. (whereas I think some people look exactly the same in all photos, and their photos look like who they are in person.)
Does anyone have an explanation for this phenomenon? Can we never know what we really look like because we only see our reflection or photo? Is their some psychological phenonenon whereby you have a certain unchanging image of yourself in your head? Are there certain people who just look different than their real self in photos? Maybe I am one of them?