Surviving a wedding
October 2, 2011 8:38 AM Subscribe
I have extreme anxiety about leaving the house and being in groups. I'm going to my sister's wedding this holiday weekend. I've worked up to dealing with crowds on ferries, driving there, what I'll be wearing and gifts I'll be giving. I still have no clue what to say to people or what people talk about at these events. Help? Specific special details included.
posted by kanata to Human Relations (26 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
The night before the wedding his rich father wants to throw a small dinner for my mother and I to meet his family at some fancy golf club. I took 6 months to find one outfit that is acceptable for a wedding. What is golf club wear?
There will be around 35 people at the wedding so not large enough that I can hide. A large percentage of them will be deaf (I know enough ASL to talk to my sister and all the alphabet...basically really poor stilted ASL and I understand even less when spoken by someone who does not read lips as well as my sister and has the patience for my slowness). There will be an interpreter for the ceremony and maybe an hour later.
I will be unfortunately part of the pictures. I'm morbidly obese. The rest of my family has competed at national and international events in their sports. Her fiance regularly rides his bicycle for 100kms for fun. I've only met him once and he said I looked like no one in the family and could be a football player. How do I minimize my impact on these portraits?
The reception will be a luncheon afterwards. There will be no interpreter then. What do people talk about at weddings with each other? I'm currently unemployed and on disability for my depression. While I'm feeling better for my depression this is spinning me out of control. One of my anxieties is making small talk.
I guess I just am asking what do I do in this situation? How do I make it through without making my sister ashamed (I already feel bad that I'm not fluent in her language and culture but she is 10 yrs older than me and I only see her for about four days a year) What are conversation topics I can discuss? How do you take a good picture when everyone else around you is stick thin and you are not?