Single mom's teenager disapproves of boyfriend
September 26, 2011 8:01 PM Subscribe
Single mom's teenager disapproves of boyfriend - does it ever get better?
posted by anonymous to human relations (27 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Asking for a friend:
My friend is dating a single mom who has a teenager (17). They have been dating for about 8 months, and the teenager has made it clear that they do not approve of the boyfriend. No real reason besides being the first serious boyfriend, the ex still in love with the mom, and massive entitlement issues from being the only child in the family. My friend has tried to bond with the teenager, but it was met with extreme anger and resentment, so he gave up. Every instance of them being together, the mom was present - so no issues like he did something that would provoke this. He has had no contact with the teenager in a few months, but the teenager still feels the need to make idle threats, and verbalize their disapproval over dating this particular person. The boyfriend does not live with the teen and mom. However this is made worse by the fact that the mom does not really set a strong stance on not bad mouthing boyfriends, but she doesn't really let it affect the relationship either. The boyfriend doesn't like the bad mouthing, but has stated that no matter what - as long as the teenager is respectful, they will always have a room available.
My friend wants to get some personal perspectives from others that have either been through it or know of people that have, does it ever get easier or advice to make it easier? Do most teenagers ever realize that while they might not like the person, they make a good, loving couple? I should note that the boyfriend also does not want to become a step father or step into any role like that; he just wants to be cordial and friendly with the teen. Any other advice would be greatly appreciated. He's at the end of holding out any hope if it improving and is dreading that this will continue into adulthood.