How to date a guy with kids
September 26, 2011 8:32 AM Subscribe
How to approach dating someone who has primary custody of two almost-grown children?
posted by worry_wart to human relations (16 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I've been seeing a great guy for about 5 months (me mid-30's gay male, him mid-40's gay male). He has 2 kids from a previous divorce aged 16 and 19. The kids were living with his ex in another state, but have recently moved in with him to take advantage of better local education/universities/economy. I haven't met his kids yet.
I really, really (REALLY) like this guy, he makes me happier than I've been in years. The kids aren't a deal breaker for me, but I don't know how to approach dating now that we're past the initial getting to know you stage. Normally this would be the time to start spending lots more time together, whole weekends, lazy mornings in bed, etc etc...but that doesn't seem possible since he has his kids at home, and is not comfortable leaving them alone overnight/weekends while he is at my place. He says that he is very interested in me and that I make him as happy as he makes me.
Am I over-thinking this? Should it be any different than dating a single childless guy? How can I move things to the next level? We have sort of stalled with 1-2 lunches during the week, and Friday night dates (rare sleepovers).