How can I break free and love her like she needs?
September 21, 2011 12:18 PM Subscribe
You are a man and you were once shy about sex, particularly about vocalizing your wants/needs. How did you come out of your shell?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (20 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
This is something my SO has been asking me for ages, but I haven't managed it. I'm pretty vanilla; I prefer soft core photos and artful nudes to videos and traditional XXX stuff. Dirty talk makes me uncomfortable, but it's something that my SO loves. She wants me to tell her what I want, tell her the things she loves about her (during sex, and in life in general), but I have a hard time doing this. She's not into anything crazy. She just wants me to be more open. I can barely talk to her during sex.
What's worked for you? How did you break free of the self-consciousness? I love my SO and want nothing more than to please her. Anon email: email@example.com